Entries from January 16th, 2013

Jan16

Let us Begin

Posted by: Naz Laila

“Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow has not yet come. We have only today. Let us begin.”

– Mother Teresa

 

Let us just begin to dream the impossible and be ridiculous (Ridiculous is the new remarkable)

Let us begin our day with a prayer and gratitude.

Let us begin our conversations with a smile.

Let us just begin to slow down, smell the roses, look at the Moon or take a photo.

Let us begin to extend our hearts and hands more often.

Let us begin to trust our instincts and follow our hearts.

 

let us begin

 

Let us begin to see ourselves beyond our designations, fancy cars and designer clothes.

Let us begin to practice more courage and share our vulnerability.

Let us just begin to embrace our perfectly imperfect but wonderful life.

Let us begin to ignore the critics and believe in ourselves.

Let us just begin to let go of the past, the bitterness and the resentments.

Let us begin to show more compassion to each other but more importantly to ourselves.

Let us begin to show up and tell our unique stories to the world.

Let us begin to invite more light, grace and growth in our everyday lives.

Let us begin to nourish our souls, ignite our passions and experience more joy.

Let us just begin to heal ourselves with meaningful connections and forgiveness.

Let us begin to transform our ordinary hours to magical moments with the gift of kindness and generosity.

Let us begin the journey to live a passionate and purposeful life.

Let us begin to craft a life with grand design, some bold colours, sparkly beads and soft textures.

Let us begin to experience the beauty, spread the magic, and share the love.

 

With love and gratitude,

– Naz

 

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This post is part of a monthly blog circle. Now please move to the next post of the blog circle from the wonderful Mary Williams and this is her post for this blog circle Find the Light.

 

Jan11

Can You See the Beauty?

Posted by: Naz Laila

I was checking my Facebook when I stumbled upon a photo. It was the photo of a beautiful little girl in a garden and a quote of Rumi at the bottom of the photo. The photograph itself was magnificent but what really struck me was the quote:

 “ I see my beauty in you”  –  Rumi

photo by alfonsator

 

I was amazed by the depth and strength of these simple words. However, I wasn’t prepared for the emotions they evoked in me. These words brought clarity to so many questions and experiences that I became overwhelmed with emotions.

First mother’s day poster prepared by my daughter at age 5.

‘Why do you love your mother? Because she has a beautiful face.’

When I saw the poster I asked her “What did you mean by that?”

She said “Your face makes me happy mummy, it’s beautiful.”

I wasn’t sure if she knew what she was talking about.

 

Did she see her own innocence, preciousness and bondage in my face that made it so beautiful? YES she did.

 

Three months into our relationship my husband (living overseas at that time) said “your photo looks more beautiful each day”.

“Isn’t it the same photo that you look at everyday?” I asked.

“Yes, but it looks more beautiful than before”. I was confused.

 

Was it his love that was growing stronger each day made the photo look more beautiful? YES it was his love, now I know.

 

Someone I know once made a derogatory comment about one of my wedding photos. I was shocked and heart-broken.  I wondered how could somebody be so insensitive? What made her to be so judgemental? I did not have an answer for 10 years.

 

Did she see her own fear and insecurities in that photo? YES she did, now I have the answer.

 

I remembered how many times I looked at the mirror to see a flawless beautiful face but all I saw was countless imperfections.  There were many wrinkles, dark circles,  blemishes and the list goes on. I bought new make up, changed the facials and tried different diet.

Did it work? No it didn’t.

Did I see my fear, guilt and insecurities in the mirror that made those wrinkles and dark circles to stand out? YES I did.

I recalled many conversations I had with my friends about how frustrated they were with their body image. It reminded me of my gorgeous friend who kept changing her skin care products every month to find the perfect fit, although she looked absolutely stunning. I thought of the stories I read in the news everyday about so many young girls going under the knife to get the perfect look.

 

Are we all trying to show the world the beauty that we don’t see in ourselves?

 

As the innocent face of that little girl became blurry, I felt a profound shift inside me. I needed to find the beauty. Not with another range of skin care product or new facial but with acceptance, self-compassion and gratitude. My search for the perfect look stopped there. The wrinkles have been slowly taken over by the gratitude of having a healthy body; the light of acceptance has removed those dark circles.

I see my beauty in the mirror; I see my beauty in you.

Can you see the beauty? Please share your story with us.

 

With love and gratitude,

Naz

 

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photo by alfonsator

Jan02

ENGAGE! EMBRACE! ENJOY!

Posted by: Naz Laila

WORD This blog post is part of a blog circle created by a few amazing creative souls. In this blog circle we are sharing our “Word of The Year” For 2013.

I have never been a fan of New Year resolution or setting up targets to achieve within a certain time frame. However last year has been a huge transformational year for me and as a family we have made quite a few changes in our lives.  Many of the changes were centred around practising “less stuff, more experience”, something I have wished to practice for a while now. This mantra has really helped us to make few important changes and set us on a path to enjoy simple treasures of life.

This experienced has inspired me to take a similar approach for 2013. Just before we started to think about this blog circle, few words kept popping in my head. To my surprise, they seem to be a perfect match for my 2013 word “ENGAGE, EMBRACE, ENJOY”. Each of these words has their own significance but together they form a powerful guiding post for me.

ENGAGE: Before my journey to become a gentle rebel I have been following all the usual rules to win the rat race, didn’t ask many questions. I now know that I was merely existing, I was not living my life. I wasn’t engaged with my life. I gave other people the authority to write my script and just acted accordingly. However, it was a whole different story last year. I questioned many things, changed few rules, faced some of my fears and for the first time I felt I was living my life. I want to take that engagement to a greater extent this year.

  • I plan to ask more questions
  • Face more of my fears
  • Stumble and rise
  • Follow more of my instincts
  • Extend my hand and open my heart more often

EMBRACE: I know living my life with more intention and engagement is going to bring some rewards as well as some challenges. I need to embrace those challenges and face the emotions (fear, uncertainty, self-doubt, vulnerability) they will bring along, rather than trying to avoid them. I have tried to avoid them many times before, only to find them coming back with more strength.

ENJOY: I want to enjoy every bit of my precious life. I believe engaging fully with life and embracing its ups and downs are the essential parts of enjoying this journey. I plan to try my best to make things happen. How at the same time I will also learn to accept that there are many things that will not be in my control.  I hope to slow down and enjoy many magical moments that are often disguised as ordinary things, because I believe in magic.

With love and best wishes for the New Year!

Naz

Please follow the link to the next post of this blog circle from the wonderful, energetic and super organized,  Becky Cavender , http://beckyinburma.blogspot.com

This post has  been also shared at another blog circle called Fly tribe http://fly-tribe.blogspot.com.au/p/fliers-blogswebsites.html

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Jan01

10 Things You Must Quit Today to Have a Better Tomorrow

Posted by: Naz Laila

Top 10 things to quit today  for a better  tomorrow - A gentle rebellion

Top 10 things to quit today for a better tomorrow

  1. Quit paying too much attention to all the negative energy (overly critical boss, spiteful comments from friends, judgemental family members, series of grim events in the news) around you.  They drag you down, drain all your energy and time.  In the process you lose focus on the positive aspects of your life. You only have limited hours in a day, so be cautious to spend it on things that matter the most.
  2. Quit expenses on stuff and experience that don’t add any joy, meaning or purpose in your life. They only clutter your home and clog your mind.  Create more space for simplicity and joyful experience.
  3. Quit the tendency to continuously compare yourself with everybody around you. You will always find somebody smarter, shaper, faster than you at work, somebody with bigger house, better looks or brighter kids among your friends and neighbours. There will be no end to this race. Focus your energy to be the best of you, not better than someone else.
  4. Quit the habit of doing the urgent things first and pushing away the important (but difficult/uncomfortable) thing away till they become urgent
  5. Quit the urge to be in everyone’s good book. This is not only impossible to achieve but also the process of continuously performing to please will leave you feel exhausted, inauthentic and unhappy.  If you live a life of honesty, kindness and authenticity you will develop true connection with the people who really matter in your life.
  6. Quit the habit of prioritising everyone’s need and ignoring yours. You run the risk of accumulating resentment in the process that will manifest after some time and will affect your relationship.  Self care (which is different from self-indulgence) is one of the most important skills you need to master to be part of a healthy and happy relationship.
  7. Quit the “thinking, discussing, reading, planning” mode about your new ideas or projects. Start taking small steps today. All the rest will follow once you start.  You should not start ‘soon’; start ‘now’ to be somewhere different tomorrow.
  8. Quit the urge to be part of everything (all the big projects, exciting assignments, new book clubs, parents groups) and to be everywhere (in real life or in digital world) so that you don’t miss out. If you are part of too many things at one time you are only giving only part of yourself   (energy, focus, interest) to those and eventually you will lose interest in many of them.
  9.  Quit the plan to make multiple big changes at one time or set out for 5 different goals to achieve simultaneously. You will start with great enthusiasm to make all the changes but you are less likely to stick with them for a long period of time and will end up not achieving all of them. Start with one small change and build it up for a while and only then add another one. With this approach you will be slower to reach your goal but you are much more likely to master them and make them work for a long time.
  10. Quit the habit of repeating the same pattern of behaviour, attitude or actions to get different results. To achieve a different result learn from your mistake, analyse what didn’t work in the past and change your actions, approach and attitude.

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