Jan11

Can You See the Beauty?

Posted by: Naz Laila

I was checking my Facebook when I stumbled upon a photo. It was the photo of a beautiful little girl in a garden and a quote of Rumi at the bottom of the photo. The photograph itself was magnificent but what really struck me was the quote:

 “ I see my beauty in you”  –  Rumi

photo by alfonsator

 

I was amazed by the depth and strength of these simple words. However, I wasn’t prepared for the emotions they evoked in me. These words brought clarity to so many questions and experiences that I became overwhelmed with emotions.

First mother’s day poster prepared by my daughter at age 5.

‘Why do you love your mother? Because she has a beautiful face.’

When I saw the poster I asked her “What did you mean by that?”

She said “Your face makes me happy mummy, it’s beautiful.”

I wasn’t sure if she knew what she was talking about.

 

Did she see her own innocence, preciousness and bondage in my face that made it so beautiful? YES she did.

 

Three months into our relationship my husband (living overseas at that time) said “your photo looks more beautiful each day”.

“Isn’t it the same photo that you look at everyday?” I asked.

“Yes, but it looks more beautiful than before”. I was confused.

 

Was it his love that was growing stronger each day made the photo look more beautiful? YES it was his love, now I know.

 

Someone I know once made a derogatory comment about one of my wedding photos. I was shocked and heart-broken.  I wondered how could somebody be so insensitive? What made her to be so judgemental? I did not have an answer for 10 years.

 

Did she see her own fear and insecurities in that photo? YES she did, now I have the answer.

 

I remembered how many times I looked at the mirror to see a flawless beautiful face but all I saw was countless imperfections.  There were many wrinkles, dark circles,  blemishes and the list goes on. I bought new make up, changed the facials and tried different diet.

Did it work? No it didn’t.

Did I see my fear, guilt and insecurities in the mirror that made those wrinkles and dark circles to stand out? YES I did.

I recalled many conversations I had with my friends about how frustrated they were with their body image. It reminded me of my gorgeous friend who kept changing her skin care products every month to find the perfect fit, although she looked absolutely stunning. I thought of the stories I read in the news everyday about so many young girls going under the knife to get the perfect look.

 

Are we all trying to show the world the beauty that we don’t see in ourselves?

 

As the innocent face of that little girl became blurry, I felt a profound shift inside me. I needed to find the beauty. Not with another range of skin care product or new facial but with acceptance, self-compassion and gratitude. My search for the perfect look stopped there. The wrinkles have been slowly taken over by the gratitude of having a healthy body; the light of acceptance has removed those dark circles.

I see my beauty in the mirror; I see my beauty in you.

Can you see the beauty? Please share your story with us.

 

With love and gratitude,

Naz

 

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photo by alfonsator

10 comments

  • Mon

    Naz your post is beautiful! You won’t know it unless I say it but I brought all the raw emotions cumulating it my hear out. It brought tears into my eyes. Good tears. Tears that cleanse all sorrows. Quoting you: ‘ I felt a profound shift inside me.’ – that is what my last dr visit did to me. I could not capture it more beautifully thank you did. A true shift into a new, positive outlook. Thank you so much for this post!

  • Caroline Flexman

    Wow Naz, what a beautiful post… thanks so much for sharing this! Love Caroline xxxx

  • Caroline Flexman

    PS I pinned your photo and quote with a link to your article here on one of my pinterest accounts! 🙂 xxx
    http://pinterest.com/pin/517069600937348949/

  • Becky in Burma

    Naz, this is beautiful. I really admire how you are at a place in your life where you can see the beauty in yourself and accept you for exactly who you are now. You are encouraging and inspiring me because this is something I really lack in my life.

    Thank you. <3

  • Lisa Rivas

    I’m awestruck by the beauty of your post which is a direct reflection of your “self”. Bless you Naz. 🙂

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  • Rashid

    Dear Naz,

    The part of this post that got me to think right at this moment was the quote by Rumi. I am glad that I have stumbled upon your blog and came across with this great quote today. So, first of all, many thanks for sharing.

    I have read just one poem of the poet Mewlana Jalaluddin Rumi who was a mistic poet and a sufi ….thats all I know about the poet. I thought its worth mentioning of the person who is behind this quote that is full of insights and packed with the power of rising above yourself.

    I have always been attracted by the lives of the sufis. They were so capable of producing simplest of the verses that would shake you to your core. The sufis feel the power within the moment they first have the feeling “what if I become timeless?” .This feeling is supposed to be the last point of giving up any know controlling factors of human life….its a complete submission to the infinite intelligence. Sounds impossible? Well …they lived in this world once upon a time and there might living sufis nowadays which we don’t have any idea of.

    I have never ever written in a blog post. But hey look you have given me a good enough space here to write my first blog post…hahaha. So I am saving my 4 minutes to create a blog as said by Pat Flynn (smartpassive.income.com). You can call me lazy and I guess that’ss what I am 🙂

    I once read in a welcome address handout of the International Conference of Sufism held in Bhopal, India, which is as below.

    “Sufism is a great philosophy of deep, infinite feelings, but it is not a religion. One can be a Muslim, Hindu, Sikh, Christian, Jew, yet be a sufi too, because sufism is an exalted state of mind where love and peace resound like a soft melody, echoing and re-echoing in the depth of one’s soul, creating a new idealogical state of mind overflowing with love!.”

    I believe a mind overflowing with love is the only mind capable of seeing the beauty of himself / herself in a child. Jalauddin Rumi is said to have achieved that state of mind …the exalted state of sufism. I will finish here by quoting a few beautiful verses invented by this sufi’s beautiful mind’s imagination. It goes like this ….

    “You and I unselfed, will be together,
    indifferent to idle speculation, you and I.
    The parrots of heaven will be cracking sugar
    as we laugh together, you and I.
    In one form upon this earth,
    and in another form in a timeless sweet land. ”

    – Mewlana Jalaluddin Rumi

    • Naz Laila

      Thanks for sharing your knowledge about Sufism and this beautiful poem. I am so glad that you have trusted this space to write your first blog comment/ post. I hope you practise this courage more often and share your journey with us. Best wishes.

  • Rashid

    Loved your post. Amazing!!!

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