An invitation to see beauty in our complicated life stories

Posted by: Naz Laila


I used to think ,

We can define ourselves as either successful or failure.

We feel content with our life or feel empty.

We are either happy or miserable.

We live courageously or in fear.

We are either bold and strong or tender and friable.

We have either beautiful loving relationships or we are a mess.

We are either blessed with a perfect life or we are abandoned and lost.

We either strive or struggle.

Over the last few years with many transforming life experiences my believe has been shifted in a big way…

Now I know,

We can achieve amazing success in our professional life but can still struggle in our personal relationships.

We can be strong and confident to make difficult business decisions yet we can feel vulnerable to share our creativity with the world.

We can feel the fear of uncertainty and the exhilaration of possibilities in the same breath.

We can be heartbroken and scared yet we are capable of inviting more love and joy.

We can be selfless loving parent yet at times fail to show up with utmost sincerity for our partners or friends.

We can feel belonged to a close nit family yet struggle to find our place in the bigger community.

We may get hit hard with failure and feel lost yet we can be grateful for all the life lessons learned in the process and for all the guideposts.

At times our faith can be tested to the core yet the Grace could humble us.

Our life is not either “black” or “white”. It is an imperfect blending of many colours and strokes in the process of creating our unique masterpiece.

With this knowing comes an ease and a shift. An ease to let go the idea of a “successful life” or a “perfect relationship”.  A shift of mindset to see beauty in our complicated, messy, imperfect, ever so evolving and precious life journey.

With Love and gratitude,





  • Nancy H. Vest

    I am living in what has been the most complicated part of my life story thus far. My husband died 4 months ago. I trust beauty will come again; it always does.

  • Vi

    I came across a very old comment of yours on Penelope Trunk’s blog today and wondered what ended up happening for you. Glad you are still blogging once in a while!

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